Adoption Talk

Part of the purpose of the blog is to educate our friends and family on some of the ins and outs of adoption. It’s been awhile since I’ve posted anything profound on adoption. It’s partly been from lack of anything to say and partly because thinking about it all the time was too exhausting and depressing. I think God has really been working on me and I’ve been able to let a lot of the anxiety go concerning the adoption. It has been really nice. It’s the first time in almost 3 years that I’ve actually gone several days in a row without giving fertility (or our lack of) much thought. When it did cross my mind it didn’t devastate me, it was more of a passing thought. I did have a couple of things stick in my mind this week that I thought might be good topics to cover in a series of posts.

Right now two things that seem to be wadding my shorts are when people say “I don’t understand why it costs so much” and “I don’t understand why it takes so long” (notice these are statements, there are no ? marks on the end of the sentence) Now, I should clarify that my shorts only get wadded when people state this with a certain tone to their voice and without the question marks. There are a lot of well meaning people who truly don’t understand the cost and the wait and they are asking an honest question because they want to be informed. Then there are those who state that adoption is too costly and too long of a wait without having any knowledge to back up their statement. They aren’t asking us about it, they’re telling us their opinion without any facts. I’ve had a hard time with those people. Usually about a day after our conversation a smart response finally comes into my head and I could just kick myself for not thinking of it earlier. All of you who read this blog fall in the ? mark category, the ones who really need to read it aren’t. But maybe you can take this little bit of knowledge and use it some day if you get in a conversation with someone about adoption.

Have a good weekend, I know you all will be checking the blog first thing Monday morning for my latest words of wisdom!!!