Thursday, June 14, 2012

Gotcha Day

Gotcha Day is another thing widely and hotly debated in the adoption world.  It seems like everyone has a very strong opinion on the term, which actually in adoption there are people with strong opinions about everything.  I do enjoy reading things on occassion that I don't necessarily agree with because it does give me something to think about, but honestly for the most part all I think is blah, blah, blah.  I think there was a Far Side Cartoon one time where it was what cats hear and it was all blah, blah, blah.  That's how I feel a lot of the time.   I've said it probably 1 million times and I'll keep saying it - adoption is such a highly personal thing.  What I think it right for my little family may not be right for some one elses.  And that is ok.  It doesn't make me right or wrong and it doesn't make them right or wrong.  We are just different. 

Will Jay and I celebrate Gotcha Day(or whatever other term is "acceptable")over the years?  I don't know.  We will see how it fits into our family.  We will see how Camryn feels about it as she gets older.  But how could I not mention the fact that we are so very very thankful that God made us a family of 4 one year ago today.  One year ago today, in a courtroom in St Louis, we got us one sweet little girl who has forever changed our family.  At that same time she also got another set of parents who love her fiercely and a brother who is as crazy about her as she is about him.  Not to mention Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, etc who couldn't love her any more even if she shared their genetics. 
 We are thanking God today that we've seen this face every day for 365 days (acutally I guess that would be 366 since it is a Leap Year?)  Whatever the number is we couldn't be happier - and by the look she gave me this morning I'd say she's pretty happy about it to. 

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Shelley said...

YAY! Such a wonderful feeling knowing it really did happen and that sweet little thing is in your life for ever and ever. She is so stinking cute and I can't believe I have not met her yet! By the way, this post made me remember that Elle's finalization day is in 3 days. And for what it's worth...we don't do a gotcha day. Would it be when she was born (since her mom invited us to meet her that night!)? or a week later? or 6.5 months later??? Who knows. We live such a regular life that I don't think about her adoption much. Even with having a very open adoption I don't think about it...her bio families are just part of our world now and it's just not a big deal. It's easy and comfortable. Everything has just fallen into place. It's a nice peaceful place to be.

Rachel said...

We have the court dates on our calendars, but we don't celebrate them. I'm not for or against celebrating them (no strong feelings either way). I guess to us, yes, it's a special day, but for our kids, it's not really significant. It just means something to us adults. To each his/her own! And ditto to what Shelley said---adoption isn't really part of our every day lives. Yes, I write a lot about adoption, but that's more me, not me putting adoption onto my children.